Analyze this: There’s a boiling pot of water on the stove. You’re a toddler bouncing a ball in the kitchen. The ball goes where it shouldn’t and you end up with boiling water on you. Before that, you were an inquisitive, adventurous kid. After the incident, you’re withdrawn and passive. So the question is, can trauma change your personality?

Trauma is an emotional response, and it includes, like the example above, fear, guilt, empathy, worry, anxiety, and dozens of other emotions we hold on to and use to dictate how we react to future similar scenarios. So, if you’re holding onto an emotion (or several) and you replay it when stressed or when similar circumstances to the original programming arise, AND the programmed response differs from how you would have acted prior to the trauma, then yes, trauma changes your personality.

can trauma change your personality

Trauma can change the personality for the “better” or for the “worse”.

If a traumatic event happens and causes you to be more loving, most would consider that a good thing. If the event caused you to be angrier, most would agree that’s not a good thing.

What Causes Trauma

The word trauma gets thrown around a little more lightly nowadays. PTSD from war veterans really pushed the term into the global awareness around the time of the Gulf War.

We know trauma is an emotional response, but what causes it?

It’s funny, not in a humorous way, but because the condition, made famous for being synonymous with war, can appear from things you never considered:

  • a near car accident
  • an argument
  • the neighbor’s dog snapping at or even barking at you
  • a bad grade on a test
  • a thunderstorm
  • missing a flight
  • parents yelling at you
  • losing a tooth
  • finding out there’s no Santa Claus

Some of those may sound trivial, and they may be to most, but to the person experiencing the emotion triggered by the event, the effect can be life changing.

traumatic events

Take the Santa Claus example. Most kids fall into and get caught up in the hoopla of fat old man driving a sleigh to deliver toys one night a year. It’s usually the kid with the older brother/sister who spills the beans for their friends, but not everyone handles it the same. Some kids feel lied to and betrayed. That affects their future experiences with people and things people tell them.

Does that qualify as changing their personality? Of course, it does.

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Can I Get Rid of the Emotions (after a traumatic event)?

You can get rid of the emotions you embody after experiencing a traumatic event, but not the experience. Let’s revisit these in a minute.

These things occurred in my life.

At 15, I blew out my knee. I couldn’t play sports anymore, which was a huge part in how I identified with myself then.

At 19, I was in a near-fatal car accident. My dead grandfather showed up and told me it wasn’t my time to leave.

At 21, I was involved in another car accident. It was a hit and run where I almost lost my right leg below the knee.

At 30, I got a virus they never really confirmed that kept me in the hospital for 10 days hooked up to a heart IV.

The above instances are what most people would consider traumatic. They are, but I now consider them as things that happened to me. My emotional response to those events was different than yours would have been. My experiences after, therefore, are different than yours would have been.

Those events changed who I was and the things I thought. They did so negatively for quite some time. I thought I was destined to fail… to crash and burn.

I do not think that way anymore.

I removed the emotional baggage and therefore changed how I viewed those incidences what they meant.

You have the power to do the same.

You can change the way you think about anything, but to do so, you need to find the emotion attached to the thinking.

Let’s assume you also had a car accident. In your car accident, you embodied rage, your own and the rage of your family from putting yourself and them in that situation. What would be your train of thought?

It’s impossible to predict, but let’s say, for example, your rage manifested as guilt, shame, and spite. Imagine for a second how thoughts along those lines might pan out.

Separating Emotions from the Experience

There is a difference. A big one.

Emotions bubble up and create a convoluted view of not only the traumatic experience, but of future experiences both of similarity and dissimilar.

The experience is an event. It’s a one-dimensional fact of cause and effect.

The fact you, me (I hope you haven’t), or anyone else got into a car accident is just that; a fact. We can add details to describe the fact, but they do nothing more than add detail.

Emotions, on the other hand, are multi-dimensional because they carry with them the energy (chemical, biological, and psychological) of the meaning we attach to the experience as well as animate responses to that energy.

The more we hold on to the emotion we use to define the event, the more engrained that emotion becomes as part of that experience… AND future experiences.

To heal from a traumatic experience, we need to find the attached emotions, both good and bad/positive and negative, and remove them. Removal of the emotions redefines the energy we use to define an experience and therefore takes away the power those emotions have over future experiences.

How To Heal Trauma (how I healed mine)

To heal trauma, I had to get to the root of my problems. Emotions are the root.

They are the foundation, the software, and the basic language our bodies use to dictate how we interact with the world around us.

At its most basic level, the emotion is nothing more than a chemical response. It’s a cocktail our brains concoct based on a reaction to our environment.

  • We see a dog running toward us.


  • The dog is barking and showing its teeth.
  • Our pupils dilate, the brain cues adrenaline production.
  • We start running…

That is a very basic sequence of events that causes changes in our bodies in response to external stimuli.

That is a very basic, measurable scientific explanation.

But the response is deeper than that, and it occurs well before our eyes, ears, and heart register the barking dog. The response actually starts on an energetic level, because deeper than the chemical reaction the scientists CAN measure are things happening in and around us, we cannot YET measure.

Everything is energy.

  • The dog is energy.
  • The dog’s barking is energy.
  • The dog’s teeth are energy.
  • Your eyes are energy.
  • Your muscles are energy.
  • The adrenaline pumping through your veins is energy.

Every single thing is energy.

Even the emotions you feel. They are energy too.

Define, Locate, and Move the Energy to Heal Trauma

Since everything is energy, including the emotions we conjure up in response to traumatic a.k.a. emotional events that means we need to find that energy then let it go.

When we identify the energy, also known as an emotion, we create and pin a tag to that emotion.

But how do we even get that far?

That’s the beauty of muscle testing.

We use muscle testing to communicate with the body the same way you use your phone to contact your mom. The communication with your body is a little more rudimentary, using yes or no responses, but that’s not too far off from the way family conversations go sometimes, plus there’s no guilt 😉

The meridian chart used in kinesiology gives us a defined map of where the emotions are located based on the Chinese meridian system.

Using these two tools, you can find the emotions you’ve embodied to any and every event, be it traumatic or not, that’s ever occurred in your life. You can find the emotions you’ve tagged to people, places, things, ideas, events, other people’s emotions, and their energy, too.

Are traumatic events holding you back in life?

Is there a glass ceiling keeping you trapped?

Does frustration follow you in your relationships, your work, life…?

Apply for the Amo Ni system today and change your tomorrow before it materializes.

Amo N!