Have you ever snapped a branch off a tree or a leaf off the stem of a flower? Chances are, if you were a kid at some point in your life, you did. You might not have paid attention to the aftermath, but it’s similar to what trauma healing looks like. The part of the organism you tore away left a mark, but growth continues above the scar.
In short, life goes on. That’s how it works for the tree.
You and I are a little different.
That’s the best analogy I can come up with, but it’s not a very good one because…
The tree does not use that trauma to dictate what happens next. I guess in a way it does because there won’t be any other growth sprouting from that spot, so it is affected. It’s just not influenced above that spot.
But the good news is that’s what you need to heal.
Trauma healing is a process that involves locating, connecting with, appreciating, and releasing the emotional reactions you embodied in a child.
Traditional therapy has you looking inward with your conscious thoughts, but the problem with that approach is the trauma you held onto as a child isn’t stored in the conscious department. You might remember a traumatic event very well, but the subconscious is the one who’s in control of putting that reaction into play the next time you’re triggered.
Let’s say you’re baking cookies. You’ve mixed all the ingredients and you’re getting close to spreading that dough on the pan, but at the last moment, you decide to add some chocolate chips.
You go into the garage and look under the hood of the car. They aren’t there, so you go into the bathroom and look in the cabinets. They aren’t there either. You get frustrated, then try one more spot: under the bed. You throw your hands up in defeat and settle that there aren’t any chocolate chips.
But you do have them. You bought them last week, and you put them in the pantry. They are there in the house. They are right under your nose. You just looked in all the wrong places.
Could you have chocolate chip cookies? Yes.
Will you? Not unless you look in the right spot.
You can heal old trauma. The biggest trick is finding it and to do that, you need to know where to look.
The Castle Guard: The Subconscious
Your subconscious handles EVERYTHING.
It handles the constant management of all your internal systems and the reactions you experience inside your body to stimuli outside the body.
That’s a lot to manage.
Imagine being a property manager for every home, office, and building IN THE WORLD.
Now imagine being responsible for the weather reporting and the response each individual takes as a reaction to that weather report. Head spinning?
At first thought, you may think the way the subconscious labels and holds onto emotional responses is lazy. But imagine if you had all the previously mentioned responsibilities. You’d want to be as efficient as possible, right? Anything outside of your immediate zone of reach would take a back seat.
And that’s why your traumatic responses get programmed: in the name of efficiency.
Storming the Castle: Establishing Trust
Communication is the key to any successful relationship.
One of the most important relationships we all overlook is the relationship we have with ourselves. Before you even think about the prospects of that, it sounds odd.
Outward Focus Keeps Us Blind
But if you really think about it, that’s the way our lives are directed: OUTWARD.
We look out through our eyes at the world.
We listen to others for clues about how we sit with them, but rarely pay much attention to the voice from within.
We feel the heat, the cold, the dampness from the rain, all the while ignoring the very emotions bubbling inside of us.
All of our senses tune into things in the outside world effecting us, but we spend so very little time using those same senses to get a feeling for our own selves.
We make sure to pay attention to the parts that other people will see. We use make-up, fancy clothes, and accessories to take dress up the package, because if the outside looks good the inside must match, right?
But it’s with that kind of thinking that many of us live in beautiful “homes” with manicured lawns, shrubbery and seasonal flowers, while the foundation is creaking, the walls are caving in, the plumbing is springing leaks, and the electricity is sparking out of the outlets.
Looks good from the outside, though.
I wrote storming the castle for the last heading.
That’s not the best way to describe the process you undertake when you want to find out what your subconscious is holding back.
Your subconscious is more like a bodyguard being tasked with keeping watch over the most precious child in the world.
Think Liam Neeson looking after Eddie Murphy’s Golden Child.
If you wanted to establish a dialogue with that child…
Would you storm the gates?
Would you bring ole Liam some steak and eggs, maybe a nice scotch on the rocks, and a stool to prop his feet on? Maybe some throat lozenges to help with his scratchy voice? I mean, you’re trying to butter this guy up. He’s got access to the Golden Child, right?
If you were filming this in the 80s, we’d hire Sly Stallone to run in a gun everyone down, but that’s definitely not how we do it now. Brute force isn’t the answer. Those days are hopefully long gone.
Not only do we want to talk to the Golden child, we want to establish a relationship with them. That means we have to establish a relationship with Mr. Neeson too.
And the key to any relationship?
We need to communicate with Mr. Neeson.
“I know where you live. I know..”
That all goes down on a phone in the movie, but for us reality people, we use our hands.
“Like sign language?”
Establishing Communications with the Subconscious
The first time I learned muscle testing, I thought it was a cool trick. Only problem, it takes two people, or so I thought.
- I don’t like bothering other people.
- I like doing things on my own.
I didn’t see the benefit if I had to get someone else involved each time I muscle tested.
Self-muscle testing changed that…in a BIG way.
Self-muscle testing is exactly as the name implies. Check out this post on how to self muscle test if you’re unfamiliar.
That discovery changed things for me because it gave me a direct line to talk with my subconscious so I could coax it into trusting me.
That’s exactly what the initial process of learning to muscle test is all about.
When I first started, I thought to myself, “This is bullsh@t. What am I doing??” You’ll probably feel the same. It took me a good three to four weeks before I was comfortable getting my yes and no.
That’s all you get with muscle testing: yes or no. But, thankfully, those two answers are enough to locate help with anything you’re looking for.
Muscle Testing Takes Time Because…?
Once you’re proficient at muscle testing, it takes seconds to ask a question and get an answer.
Getting to that point takes a little stroking of the ego.
Because you’ve spent most of your life ignoring your inner voice.
It started with you listening to your parents, then your teachers, friends, boss, coworkers, and now you’re a slave to your phone.
You stopped listening to yourself decades ago, and day by day gave up control of your life.
I think it’s fair to assume reestablishing communications might take a while.
For me it took a close to a month, but…
Once you get a firm yes and no, you’ve offered a truce and established trust.
When the trust is there, the communication follows.
And that’s when you get to work.
Using Amo Ni to Heal Trauma
The Amo Ni system uses muscle testing to communicate with your body. As soon as that’s established, we need a map.
We use a kinesiology meridian chart to explore the body and find the emotions you’ve anchored. Once we know where the emotions are located. We use corresponding meridian release points to connect with the emotion.
The Amo breath helps establish a deeper connection as well as removes the grip the emotion has on your body and the reactions you call upon to dictate your daily life.
With neurolinguistic programming, we grease the wheels of intention by reeling anticipated thoughts and feelings of attaining our hopes, dreams, and desires into the present moment.
Trauma Healing Looks Like Kids With Bubbles
Remember when you were a kid, and you got a little plastic bottle of bubble juice? You know, the one with the dipstick with the circle at the end you dunked in the potion, then pulled back out and streamed bubbles all over the yard or street.
If you had friends with you, one of you blew bubbles while the others ran around trying to keep them in the air by blowing or poking your finger and popping them.
I was the kid popping them with my finger. I loved watching the different colors in the bubble reflected in the sunlight, then the spray of the soapy water hitting my face as I popped them.
That’s what trauma healing looks like, and it’s called self-awareness.
Amo Ni finds those bubbles and pops them. Actually, your self-awareness pops them. Amo Ni gets the process started by locating the programmed trauma.
The self-awareness is you popping the bubble on your own. It’s you realizing that your reaction/s to the trauma have dictated how your life unfolded afterward the initial trauma occurred.
It’s at that moment you find yourself at a crossroads.
That’s the crossroads of conscious choice. Once there, you can move forward as you have been doing so, knowing exactly what results to expect when you do so.
You can CHOOSE to do something different. That’s the power of self-awareness. That’s the power of trauma healing.
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